I just found out the my cousin's husband was a non-believer, and so was my cousin. That was news to me, I always thought they were Catholic, maybe non strictly practicing, but at least CINO.
I was going to request he be enrolled in Perpetual Masses with the Passionists, but as a non-believer, should I still? If I do, should I not let his widow know, or should I tell her/ send her the card.
What does a practicing Catholic do for a dead non-believer family member? The very people who might need prayers, might not want them.