On almost every Catholic Blog, including this one, there will always be a post regarding pushy church ladies.
They may go by different names and or official position), Pastoral Assistants, President of the Liturgical Council, Parish Secretary, or just the mantilla-ed, long skirt wearing middle age woman who always sits int he front pew, with absolutely no parrocchial authority whatsoever, but they are the same in every parish where you would find them, and unfortunately you will find them in almost every parish: whether a slap happy liberal parish, or a very traditional- mass is a militarily precise EF scheduled in almost every timeslot on the weekend , except the Saturday evening Mass of Anticipation. (OKAY, there is absolutely no parish that is strictly EF, that I know of, but I am taking poetic licence here- go with it)
Any way, For the former ( Church Lady in Liberal Parish) This is what some call the Poncho Lady. She has some semi-official position with the church, and uses that position to direct the mass to her liking.
If your parish is constantly singing Haugen's Mass of Creation, and hymns are always Haugen, Haas, Schutte, or if they are some traditional melodies that words have been so changed as to render them completely unrecognizable, For examply is instead of singing Faith of Our Fathers, the choir is rather singing A Living Faith. And if the parish choirs' repetoirs are such that they consist of a maximum of 12 hymns, and at every mass her hymns must be sung. Then the parish is being controlled by a Church Lady. She thinks the Rubrics are guidelines and suggestions not rules to be followed.
But don't think that the more Traditional Parishes are spared this. They are not. Now you might say how can that be, traditional (EF) masses are proscribed. The Chants are determined, that mass settings are limited to those found in the Graduale Romanum, or the Kyriale, and really they are all Greg. Chant. But yeah, there too you can find the bossy church lady, though, she will not wear a poncho, but she will always be mantillaed, and in long skirts and sitting in the front pews. And she is very particular about which particular chant is used during the Ordinary Part of the Mass. The Schola Master will definitely get an earful if he should choose to use Credo VI instead of her Credo (V) .
They may have different tastes, and we can debate their taste, but their attitude is still in error. The congregation does NOT have the authority or the right to determine or rather demand that the mass will be celebrated to her tastes.
In both cases, this is to be made clear: IT IS NOT HER MASS, NO PART OF THE MASS IS HERS. IT IS NOT HER MASS SETTING, IT IS NOT HER HYMN, IT IS NOT HER CREDO.
IT IS CHRIST'S MASS, IT IS A SETTING FOR CHRIST'S MASS, IT IS CHURCH'S HYMN, AND IT IS GOD'S CREDO.
Now,my rant is over.
Scripture to keep in mind
Six things there are, which the Lord hateth, and the seventh his soul detesteth:  Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood,  A heart that deviseth wicked plots, feet that are swift to run into mischief, A deceitful witness that uttereth lies, and him that soweth discord among brethren.  My son, keep the commandments of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother. ***Cf:Douay-Rheims Proverbs 6: 16-20
I declare that I have no intent to acknowledge, distribute or encourage anything contrary to Sacred Scripture, Sacred Tradition and the teachings of the Roman Catholic Church and the Apostolic See. I submit myself and all the contents of this blog to the judgment of the Church.